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Season 2, Episode · 1 year ago

The “F” Word

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For this episode,you'll just have to listen to find out more about what F word is addressed. It is soul crushing, debiliating, and stops you from achieving and living out your dreams. Will you be bold enough to listen? Follow the podcast on instagram www.instagram.com/empowermentandallthat or on facebook www.facebook.com/empowermentandallthat to engage the podcast community. This podcast is dedicate to all my empowerment circle of supporters and patrons who are loyal followers and support this podcast. For more information on becoming part of the goddesses, visit: https://www.patreon.com/Empowermentandallthat --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/rita-bautista/message

You're listening to empowerment and all thatpodcast, your favorite podcast for women's empowerment, hosted by read Aboutista. It's timeto be reminded of the authority of your inner goddess and elevate the powerwithin. Are you ready? And we're back with another episode of empowerment andall that. I'm your host, read Aboutista, and today I'm talking aboutthe four letter word. This four letter word has some soul crushing abilities.No, I'm not talking about the fuck word. I'm talking about fear.Now, for those of us who are wondering why I chose this topic today, I had a really interesting revelation the other day. I was looking backon the last six months and how much...

...has unfolded in front of me,and I realized that in the last six months, when I finally got toa point where getting over fear and just pushing forward anyway allowed me to basicallycreate and do anything I wanted. Now, don't get me wrong, it's notlike I've never had a problem with fear. I've always allowed people tokeep me in the backseat or allowed my insecurities to be the person who droveme throughout my life. But once I finally ripped off the BANDAID. Ilearned that this four letter word, this word that used to handicap me andkeep me in my own personal jail, it really, it really didn't matteranymore. It took the back seat and I started to learn how to drivemy car. But here's the thing.

Let's talk about this, right.Why do we allow fear to become such a huge part of our lives?A good percentage of this comes from other people's perceptions. What do other peoplethink about you? And you know what's really interesting? It makes me thinkabout the time when I was in high school, at high school graduation,when they tell you to look to the left and to the right and thatnine out of ten of these people won't be in your life forever. WhenI was seventeen years old, I would have thought that that truth was notreal, that every single person that I was good friends with, that everfree family member that I was super close with, that they would be inmy life. And I don't mean completely gone, but what I'm saying isis that life continues moving forward and while you're doing that, while you're creatingand you're doing all these things, those people, they slowly start to disappear, some just naturally, because it's just...

...life. They go off and theyhave their own families, some because you fall out with them, others becauseyou stopped having the same things in common with each other. So isn't itinteresting that we can allow other people's perceptions when most of them disappear anyway?You allow their perceptions to take control of your life. So why not allowfor their perceptions to take a back seat? Another reason that fear is such acontrolling part of our lives is because you're afraid to fail. You allowyour insecurities to win every single time. So here's the thing about failure,right, if you fail ten times and you get up eleven during those tentimes that you failed, you learn to be stronger and smarter and you feelbetter every time. And the thing is...

...is that you can never learn tobe a master of anything unless you've gone through some tribulations. That can betrue with relationships and understanding the cyclical part of relationships. So if your husbandpisses you off today, it doesn't mean that you're just going to throw themout with the bath water. It means that tomorrow, hopefully, he'll learnhow to treat you better. Or you'll learn how to deal with that situationdifferently and you'll approach it with a different perception. But you don't get ridof things and you don't just completely let them go just because you failed.You Go back at it tomorrow and the next day and hopefully by the thirdday you've learned how to get over your fear of failing because you just continuegoing forward. So for most of you guys, y'all don't know what Ido regularly professionally. So I work as...

...a rep in healthcare out here inHouston, and before that I was actually in lobbying, so I was doinggovernment relations. And when I moved from that from my career, when Ichange careers right I moved from basically knowing everyone and everything to a completely differentindustry and a completely different plan of attack for work. So I go intoabout, I don't know, fifty, sixty, seventy, a hundred officesa week, probably probably more than that, and in every single one of thoseoffices there are seven thousand personalities that I'm dealt with. Now, foranyone who has ever been a rep, it can be extremely intimidating if youdon't understand the industry and you're going at it every day, talking to seventypeople who have the ability to reject you every single day. And the onething that I learned about that is is...

...that if I didn't get over myfear of failing in this position and get over my fear of other people's perceptionsimmediately, I was going to fall flat on my ass and I was goingto fail at what I was doing. So what I had to do?I had a hundred people, hundred people had to face every week, right, and I'm not telling you guys all to pick up a new person professionand start talking to a hundred people daily, but I'll tell you one thing youlearn really fast is it's not necessarily about building thick skin, but it'sabout learning how to maneuver past the rejection a lot faster. So I basicallyhad a fast forward approach to getting over rejection, moving past failure, gettingup. When I was told no, I was like, okay, whatever, I have another chance to try again tomorrow or I'll see you next week, and not allowing somebody's rejection to day...

...to allow me to think that theirrejection is going to be the same tomorrow. Look, we don't wear the sameunderwear every day, let alone have the same attitudes every day. Soif you approach a person the next day who's rejected you the first time,or the second time or the third time, ladies you can probably think back atthat boyfriend that was relentless until you finally gave in. But you know, it's basically your approach ry. If you know that you're determined to dosomething and you push through your fear of failure and you do it anyway,your chances of succeeding are so much higher because you took a chance on yourself. And here's the thing, like I said earlier, if you don't try, if you don't give yourself the ability to fail, you're allowing your insecuritiesto win and you're failing yourself every single...

...time. The only person that youhave to be honest to in this entire world is the person that looks backat you in the mirror. How long are you going to sit here andfail yourself now? The other thing about fear that I think is really interestingabout the human psyche is that, for some reason or another, when we'repursuing something and we get too close to getting it, sometimes we stop inour tracks, not because we failed, not because we got our prize,but because we're afraid of what's going to happen when we get it. We'reafraid of succeeding. Isn't that sad that you're getting that close, you're gettingreally, really close to hitting your goal, and then you stop because you feelas though the moment that you get that it means that you're going tohave to stop being lazy, it means...

...you have to get off your assand actually work a little bit harder and put forth more effort into yourself.And that's the thing about fear. The fear that you keep keeps you fromliving in the best light that you can. It stops you from being the bestperson that you can be. So here's the thing. Obviously, asI mentioned, I've worked in so many different industries. At this point inmy life, I've probably talked to, seeing or heard over, maybe Idon't know, Fiftyzero people. I'm not afraid to admit it. I'm notafraid of people, but I finally learned that through all of these moments,in these interactions with people, that I learned how to remove fear from mylife, and I think it was probably the scariest thing my mother ever hadto deal with. The fact that I'm...

...just truthfully not afraid of things anymoreand I know that the worst that can happen is my world ends and that'sit. I mean, there's nothing worse that can happen. I'm what's theworst, literally the worst that can happen to anybody? It's death. AndI promise you that fear isn't going to kill me. What's going to killme is the stress that I'm going to have because I didn't execute on thethings that I wanted. or it'll kill me on my deathbed, when I'msitting there at sixty eight are well, Geez, not sixty. I wantto live to a hundred. But Anyway, when I'm sitting on my death bedand I'm like, Oh my God, think about all those things I didn'taccomplish. And if you keep doing that, you're just going to endup bitter and just like remorseful of everything that you didn't accomplish in your lifebecause you were too lazy to get off your ass and do it. Sohere's the thing. I got a solution for you, because the only wayto truly get over your fears is to...

...get off your ass and get intomotion, and I'm here to tell you that it's time to let that shitgo. So the good thing is is I'm here to tell you that thereis a solution and it's time to let the fear go. In honor ofSpring, I'm actually going to host my very first workshop. It's going tobe a virtual one, and it's called time to kick fears ass. Let'sspring into action. The workshops going to be held on March Twenty One,two thousand and twenty, and if you're interested, you can find out moreinformation at empowerment and all Thatcom or you can shoot me an email Bautista beau Tista Dot Rita our ITA at gmailcom, with the header. I'm ready tokick fear in the ASS. Thanks for tuning in to empowerment and allthat podcast with your host read Aboutista. Want to help me grow the listenertribe. Make sure to subscribe to this podcast and follow us on instagram andfacebook under empowerment and all that, and...

...remember, keep it positive, ordon't keep it at all.

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