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Power of Meditation with Stephanie Osborne


Stephanie Osborne is the CEO of Meditate New Orleans and a meditation guide. In this episode we talk about the power of meditation. This podcast is dedicate to all my empowerment circle of supporters and patrons who are loyal followers and support this podcast. For more information on becoming part of the goddesses, visit: --- Send in a voice message:

You're listening to empowerment and all that podcast, your favorite podcast for women's empowerment, hosted by ritaboutistuff. It's time to be reminded of the authority of your inner goddess and elevate the power within. Are you ready? Welcome back to another episode of empowerment and all that, your favorite podcast for female empowerment. Today I have a special treat for you, guys. Stephanie Osbourne, CEO of lead meditation and Guide for Meditate New Orleans, joins me today. As we talked about the power of meditation. Efani, thank you so much for joining me today. Thanks for having me on. I'm excited about this episode. It's awesome that both of us find so much enjoyment out of meditation. Why don't you tell us a little bit about yourself? Okay, so I'm a meditation guide in New Orleans. I've been studying meditation since I was fifteen years old and I've studied throughout high school and college, and I eventually started guiding my family and friends and now I am a meditation guide. What would you say of Meditation Guide does in particular case? So, a meditation guide holds a space for people to be in the present moment, and sometimes that's through silences and sometimes that's through verbal guided meditation, and it's really about creating an atmosphere that allows people to be in the present moment. How I met Stephanie? She was actually one of the reasons why meditation has now become a regular part of my day and my life. If you're ever in New Orleans and you stop in to see her, you guys are into for a fabulous treat, because Stephanie has such a like soft, sweet voice and it's able to really bring you to that place of peace while you're listening to her, help you calm yourself down and be really present in the moment. So I want to thank you for that. That's special. That's special, you know, just giving us that that ability to do that. It's so empowering. You know, keys so much for ETA. How did you get started in meditation? So I was a student at New Orleans Center for creative arts. They call it Noka. It's like the fame if you've ever seen the TV show theme. I'm a lift forever. It's like that. It's cool. And so in theater there were several different classes. One of the classes was body movement and at the end of the movement class we would always have a meditation, I guided meditation. It was so good it actually led me to take Yoga in college and then Yoga and meditation throughout my college and throughout once I even graduated. I was still studying it and using it with my kids and with my family members and friends and it's just been so helpful. Speaking about family, how did your family feel when you started your process of meditation? You were Christian at the beginning. Correct, right, we're right it. But you can be a Christian and still practice meditation. So a lot of people associate meditation with Buddhism because it's stems from the Hindu and Buddhist culture. However, mindfulness and meditation is really about being in the present moment. So John Kett's in the creator of mindfulness, based stress production. He says that mindfulness is the awareness that arises when you pay attention to the present moment, like right now, on purpose and without judgment, and it's a beautiful thing. It has nothing to do with what you believe. It's just about being in the moment and even in I don't know if you've ever heard this but even in Christianity they say that when you're praying you talk to God,...

...when you're meditating, God is talking to you. Oh Wow, that's such a beautiful saying. Yeah, it's very interesting because you know, your African American. My parents are Hispanic, right, like. So, for I know for my chure, for sure, like when you start talking about meditation and they start they start associate being it directly to Buddhism. It's almost like you're pulling away from the culture that you are raised in and it's like you get this backlash. Did you receive any backlash from the community when you first started on your journey? Oh, definitely, because people don't really a lot of people don't understand what meditation is. So it's weird to some people. But once you explain it and they experience it, it's like a shift and then they become advocates. But it depends, it really depends on what you guide. So, for example, if I guide someone who's like a hardcore Christian boot Baptist person, you know, like people that are Baptist and pentecostal methodist. Sometimes they speak in tongues. So I would not do a primordial sound meditation which is using Sanskrit because it's a sanscript mantra, but I wouldn't use that with them to start because repeating a mantra from another language might be intimidating. So I would start with mindfulness and then after they learn to trust me and know and really allow me to explain what primordial sound meditation is, then we might go into that. But even then sometimes people say I'm not going to say something, I don't know, but they might repeat a mantra in English. The only problem with that is when you repeat a mantra using words that have a meaning, then it shifts your attention to the meaning instead of the vibration of the mantra. I hope that makes sense to you. Yeah, absolutely. It looks almost shifting your mind to continue thinking versus detaching from thought. Right. Correct, correct. Yeah. So what types of meditation do you teach? I offer mindfulness meditation and also primordial sound meditation, and that's from Depot Chopra. So if you've ever heard of transcendental meditation, deepoc study transcendental meditation and then He created his own Sanskrit based primordial sound meditation, and it's the differences that with mindfulness, you bring yourself back to the present moment by focusing on your breath and your body, awareness of your body, and with primordial sound meditation you bring yourself back by focusing on sanscript mantra as an anchor. So you every time you notice that you're thinking, then you start reciting your mantra silently to yourself. So those are the two that I offer. Which one's your favorite? Well, I've been on two retreats to silent retreats. Will actually three, but I've been on two different of silent retreats. One was primordial sound meditation and one was mindfulness. The one for primordial sound meditation, I came back singing. It was such a beautiful experience, but there was talking in between. So that's the disclaimer. I don't know what it would be like if I weren't talking. When I came back from the mindfulness meditation Retreet, it was a completely silent retreat. So I didn't talk for a week. And so there was when you're not talking... other people, than there's no grasping and rejecting. You know, you're not like reaching for other people's ideas and opinions or rejecting their ideas and opinions, and so there was more inward inner work, which caused me to be more emotional, but I got more insight. So I think that both of them are good. Both both of them are beneficial and I could, I think, that always go back to mindfulness, because it's easy throughout the day, I think, to focus on your breath. You even notice like if you're stressed, you take this deep breath, sometimes unintentionally, but you take it and then when you release its like, Oh, you must be stressed. Have you ever done that, like took a breath? Yes, regularly. Yeah, and then you realize, well, I must be stressed out, because why am I breathing like this? You know, like you can hear you go, yourself go, you know it, but that felt good, you know. So, yeah, yeah, it's almost like the stress kind of leaves the body through the breath pretty quickly. Yeah, it doesn't take it all away, but it does give you a like it's almost like your body telling you it's time to reset. Yeah, it gives you a moment, a moment of awareness. Yeah, it's beautiful. So so, since we're talking about the power of meditation, what do you think has been the most powerful lesson you've learned through your practice of meditation. The most powerful thing that I've learned through meditation is that the answers are in the silence meditation. I can tell you a few things, but meditation really helps improve your intuition, and the thing is, the more you meditate, the more aware you become. However, sometimes you get busy and then you stop meditating and then you realize that the things that were coming easy to you before aren't as easy. For example, I naturally have high anxiety, but when I meditate every day, my anxiety is so reduced to the point where there really is no anxiety. And then so after a while all I might say, Oh, I'm so busy, I don't have time and I'll do this later. And then what eventually happens is, you know, my husband might say was last time you meditate it and I'm like why? Because you're you're being kind of you know, you're poking at things and you know you seem an anxious or irritated and I just don't get that way with when I meditate consistently, because I'm way more conscious. I'm able to articulate my perspective from a more loving way, you know, from a more loving place and and I'm able to hear people fully without the inner dialog. You know, so so much is going on. When you meditate, it just keeps you in this. Well, do you do? You smoke. No Marijuana. Okay, so when people smoke, sometimes people that have high anxiety use an indica marijuana so that they can even themselves out and be like really calm and cool. But the thing is it's dependent, and I'm not judging anybody for smoking, because some people need it, especially people with METSD and cancers. But but you you need it in order to be there. But when you meditate consistently, it keeps you there and that, I think, is one of the biggest benefits of meditation, that you don't have to take something in that moment.

Because if you meditate every single day in the morning for like twenty to thirty minutes, then it carries you every it starts being this. So Deepak Chopra talks about this gap in the gap is the space between your thinking. It's this you're breathing becomes shallow and you're fully in the present moment. And the more you meditate, the more you experience that gap in your daily life and that's the thing that keeps you at ease. So you know, like I said, marijuana does hope for some people, but it's it has to be accessed, and the thing is with meditation, it's free and it's always accessible, and that's the thing I just love about meditation. What would you tell the person, because I'm sure you've heard these people, the theysayers, were always like well, I don't have time to sit down, or how do I sit fill for so long? There, you know, and I guess I remember. I think one of the funny things is like, when I first started practicing, I wanted every single person under the sun to do it with me too. Right. I was like no, you have to say it's like that's feeling, and you're absolutely right. It looks like you're just like on this peaceful high that nothing else can replace, you know. And and then it would always be that NASA air who's like, well, I can't sit stail or you know, I thought, you know, twenty minutes. That's a long time, and everyone thinks that you just have to start with this massive amount of time. It's like no, like everyone starts at a different space. But yeah, what what do you normally tell those that, because I'm sure you hear it a lot from from everyone's like, I don't have time for that. What is your rebuttaled for that? Okay, so I say that you can do it now. Some people, some of my clients, outside of the third the onehour meditation at the gallery throughout the week, they might like just get in their car and take a breath, and so I suggest that you can download insight timer or go on youtube and just pull something up. You can use it to go to sleep, you can use it when you get in your car, you can even use it. Mindfulness is just about being aware of whatever you're doing in the moment. So you can take a glass of cold water and put the Rim of the glass on your bottom lip, feel the coldness on your lip, the hard glass on your lip, and then slowly put the cold water in your mouth. When the waters in your mouth, you just feel the cold water. Don't swallow, just feel it on your tongue, on the roof of your mouth, and then, when you choose to, you make a conscious effort to swallow the cold water and when you swallow it, you feel it going down your throat all the way till the bottom of your belly and when you feel it in your belly, you take another SIP. It's a beautiful experience in present moment awareness. So I've seen you do this on facebook and I think it's like one of the most powerful things is to actually hear you talk about it and see you do it as well, and you're almost like savoring the water at the same time and being present in that moment. Yes, and what you call those like your mindful moments or yeah, and you just gave me an idea to do that again, because I haven't done that in a while, but I love that one, specifically to do the sipping of the tea. So it can be hot or it can be cold, but doing that really just brings you in the present moment. Tick, not Hans says so. Tick Mat Han is a meditation leader in the world and he talks about eating an apple, like really savoring the apple, you know,...

...holding it, feeling that how hard it is, looking at the color, the dense in the apple. You take a bite, Eche it, you chew it until you can't chew it anymore than you choose to swallow it. It's it's just a nice experience. Have you done it? Not The apple per se, but the water. I have practiced it in the past and I think one of the most beautiful things about that, though, it really just helps you clear your mind of the clutter for like one minute, you know, clear your mind of like everything that's going on. We are so caught with so much, that so many things daily trying to get our attention and not not a lot, not enough of the contents that we're getting it. Hey, you know, give it a second, just breathe, it's okay. Yeah, you know, just give yourself a second to be present in that moment. I think those are those moments that are so important, like for you to savor something as simple and as pure as water and take that and really give yourself the opportunity to meditate. And I thought it was just like one of my favorite things to watch you do. And I know it sounds kind of buddy, but it's like we're so we're so connected in this world now with social media that, you know, just you know, it definitely captures the mind when you're scrolling through and you see someone doing something that you're like wow, this you know, I've been missing out on a lot of single things. I think that's another thing that I love about meditation personally. It's just like it reminds you that you're missing out on so much because you're going a thousand miles an hour. Absolutely every single moment there's something happening, and the more you meditate, the more you notice those moments and that is irreplaceable, irreplaceable to be the more you meditated also allows you to connect with other people, so you're able to be present, you know, because what does everyone want? They want to be seen, heard and validated. And when you put your phone down and you look up and you make eye contact with someone when they're talking to you, it's just in really hear them without the inner dialog. You know, that's just such a beautiful thing. Hmmm, how long? I love that you brought up the word inner dialog. How long did it take for you to be able to get in control of the inner dialog? Oh, I'm not. No, I'm not. Thank you for your honest yeah, yeah, I mean so there are times when I sit down for meditation. I try to meditate every morning for thirty minutes a day, and I sometimes it's I have a super busy mind and sometimes I just remember to constantly bring myself back to the present moment. So the thing is in the more you bring yourself back, the more you are able to slip into the gap. But the gap is such a short moment of fully present moment awareness and then you notice here in the gap and then you're out of the gap and you start thinking, Oh, I was in the gap. So it's just what was the question again? What you say? Oh, at taming, that that the money was being able to Yeteah, yeah, or the Monkey Mind? Right, yeah, the monkey mind. And so a lot of people posted something recently about meditation in a lot of people were saying, I'm I can't get my mind to to just be still, I can't erase all my thoughts. And it's about not so much erasing your thoughts, because you're living, so you're always going to have a stream of consciousness in a stream of thinking that will come up, and so it's really about not so much erasing the thoughts but noticing them. And when you notice the thought, it's remembering to bring yourself back by focusing on...

...your breath or your mantra. So it's two words. It's noticing and remembering, noticing the thought, Oh, I'm thinking bringing yourself back, remembering to bring yourself back by focusing on your inbreath and your outbreath or your mantra. That is, that is a very good tool to you so hard to remember. Yeah, I'm like, I've been meditating now, at this point in my life, for about five, four or five years, and even I you know, like I said, it's now become a routine as as yours, not as like in the morning or whatever. I bind myself getting to that point the day when like, oh my gosh, I forgot, or Oh, I need to do it now, because I can self at highest points of anxiety, and I'm glad that you were so open to talk about the fact that you have anxiety. That's one of the reasons why meditation helped me so much, is because I was suffering through like depression and anxiety and it really helped bring me back to center. So but yeah, even throughout the day. Once, like you said earlier, you know, Oh, I haven't you know, I haven't gotten it all together yet. It's very true of you know, meditative practices. If we could all sit there, as a Buddhist monk all day long. Right then we could get into it a lot easier. But obviously there are a lot of other things we have going on. So for those moments that you get into the gap, it's just so important, is it is? It's so worth it to sit there. Sometimes it's worth it to sit there for thirty minutes just to get one or two moments in the gap. But your we're going in the gap throughout the day anyway. We just don't notice it. But the experience of choosing to be in the gap by sitting in stillness is the beautiful thing, honoring your space, in your time, in your love for presence. You know, yeah, you have any stories that any of your students have shared with you about how meditation has changed their lives? Sure, I have one story of this lady. Her name is Claudia and I'm sure she'll be fine with me telling the story. She went to the doctor and the doctor was taken her blood pressure and her blood pressure was kind of high and she said wait, let me take this again. I can breathe through this, and so she started slowly controlling her breath and the nurse that I'm literally watching your blood pressure lower. That was wool. Yeah, that's pretty cool. And another person, one of my girlfriends, she said that she was sitting at in the DMV and her blood pressure was rising, she was stressed out and she just started taking breaths in and out, in and out, and her broth, I mean, and she just started feeling better. And people say all the time that since they've meditated they just feel more calm. It their whole day is shifted. If you start your day in the morning meditating, the rest of your day is just like it just goes so much more easy. You know, it's just it's that it's medicine. You know it's medicine. It really is, and it's that medicine that you don't have to that you don't feel weird about afterwards or you know your body's not having a random reaction to. It's like your body's natural medicine. One thing I want to say is that when some people come to meditation, I say breathe in through your nose and out through your mouth, but outside of that we're really breathing in and out through our nostrils. But one thing that you should do or that you can do to help you not get dizzy because some people think they're supposed to breathe in and out through there, in through their nose, out through their mouth. You breathe in and out through your nostrils, but in between...

...the breaths you hold your breath, and that's a way to like slowly bring it in. When you can't bring in anymore are you take one more sip of air and hold it for as long as you can, and when you can't hold the breath any longer, you slowly control your ex hew out, and doing it in that way, it the pauses are the things that prevent you from hyperventilating, you know, or getting busy. So if you want to breathe and you hold your breath, breathe out and sometimes you can breathe in, hold your breath, breathe out, hold your breath, breathe in, breathe out, holding breath in between. That's a that's really good. I'm glad that you mentioned that because, yeah, there are those moments sometimes where you feel like you're like gasping forever. Yeah, yeah, so, Stephanie, you just had an expo for women in New Orleans for, I. Yes, reclaiming so with them. So tell me a little bit about that. Okay. So reclaiming the goddess with them is a women's empowerment and mindfulness weekend. It's the first weekend in June. We have about between one and two hundred women that come in and we have speakers, Meditatian guides, motivational speakers, Yoga instructors, self healing authors, and they do talks and exercises around Selflove, mindfulness, compassion, gratitude. And I'm also hosting a silent retreat and November and that's going to be a week, weekend long event from Thursday to Sunday, and it's going to be completely silent and it's all centered around letting go of your need to control. Oh my gosh, I need that in my life. I unfortunately you cannot make it to New Orleans on that weekend, but I saw that I was like, Oh my God, I need that in my life. So how do you go about letting go of control through silence? Well, when you're in the present moment, you're only living in what is existing at this time. But a lot of the times when we have a need to control, your constantly living in the future and there's anxiety and fear around the future. And so what we'll do is, other than meditations and Ugi Chegong Yoga and walking meditations and journaling, will also have talks every night about letting go of the need to control. And what is it? Need to stand in your own personal space and hold your space and not use your power to externalize or project what other people are doing or what other people might say your feel but instead just trusting yourself, leaning into your personal power. Wow, I feel like everyone who's listening probably should attend. For sure, let's say somebody wants to get in touch with you, if they're visiting New Orleans or if they live live in New Orleans and they want to come by and see you or sit through one of your guided meditation classes. How do they get Ahold of you? Okay, so they can go to meditate new ORLEANSCOM or they can text me at fibile four two, three two, seventy thirty. The weekend the silent women's retreat is November twenty one through the twenty four, two thousand and nineteen. It's the weekend before Thanksgiving, and so we host guided meditations at Terence Osborne Gallery on Thursday and Saturday mornings at ten am and Thursday and those are only ten dollars,...

...and then Thursday evenings at thirty pm, those are free and they're all about connections self, love, letting go and feeling amazing. I can definitely vouch for it. As I mentioned before you guys, I used to go to her classes when I lived in New Orleans, so I felt the need to want to talk to her about the power of meditation on this episode because it's so it's just been such an instrumental tool in general to help me calm my anxiety and so many other people who, as I was mentioning to Stephanie earlier, so many people who've actually started coming on to the show of Tart, talked about meditation and Yoga and just kind of the ability to can let go for the second to fall into that gap, as you mentioned. So is there anything else you'd like to say before we sign off on this episode? I just want to say thank you, Rita, for having me. This is so sweet of you. I love what you're doing and there's a need for people just like you in this world and you're shining your light. I'm proud of you and now I must stay. Now I must stay well, thank you so much, Stephanie, for joining me for empowerment and all that. You guys, if you would like to get Ahold of Stephanie, I'll go ahead and put all this information in the show notes. All right, guys. Well, till the next episode, make sure to keep it positive or don't keep it at all. Thanks for tuning in to empowerment and all that podcast with your host, Reada Bautista. Want to help me grow the listener tribe? Make sure to subscribe to this podcast and follow us on instagram and facebook under empowerment and all that, and remember, keep it positive or don't keep it at all.

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