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Power of Meditation with Stephanie Osborne


Stephanie Osborne is the CEO of Meditate New Orleans and a meditation guide. In this episode we talk about the power of meditation. This podcast is dedicate to all my empowerment circle of supporters and patrons who are loyal followers and support this podcast. For more information on becoming part of the goddesses, visit: --- Send in a voice message:

You're listening to empowerment and all thatpodcast, your favorite podcast for women's empowerment, hosted by ritaboutistuff. It's time tobe reminded of the authority of your inner goddess and elevate the power within. Are you ready? Welcome back to another episode of empowerment and all that, your favorite podcast for female empowerment. Today I have a special treat foryou, guys. Stephanie Osbourne, CEO of lead meditation and Guide for MeditateNew Orleans, joins me today. As we talked about the power of meditation. Efani, thank you so much for joining me today. Thanks for havingme on. I'm excited about this episode. It's awesome that both of us findso much enjoyment out of meditation. Why don't you tell us a littlebit about yourself? Okay, so I'm a meditation guide in New Orleans.I've been studying meditation since I was fifteen years old and I've studied throughout highschool and college, and I eventually started guiding my family and friends and nowI am a meditation guide. What would you say of Meditation Guide does inparticular case? So, a meditation guide holds a space for people to bein the present moment, and sometimes that's through silences and sometimes that's through verbalguided meditation, and it's really about creating an atmosphere that allows people to bein the present moment. How I met Stephanie? She was actually one ofthe reasons why meditation has now become a regular part of my day and mylife. If you're ever in New Orleans and you stop in to see her, you guys are into for a fabulous treat, because Stephanie has such alike soft, sweet voice and it's able to really bring you to that placeof peace while you're listening to her, help you calm yourself down and bereally present in the moment. So I want to thank you for that.That's special. That's special, you know, just giving us that that ability todo that. It's so empowering. You know, keys so much forETA. How did you get started in meditation? So I was a studentat New Orleans Center for creative arts. They call it Noka. It's likethe fame if you've ever seen the TV show theme. I'm a lift forever. It's like that. It's cool. And so in theater there were severaldifferent classes. One of the classes was body movement and at the end ofthe movement class we would always have a meditation, I guided meditation. Itwas so good it actually led me to take Yoga in college and then Yogaand meditation throughout my college and throughout once I even graduated. I was stillstudying it and using it with my kids and with my family members and friendsand it's just been so helpful. Speaking about family, how did your familyfeel when you started your process of meditation? You were Christian at the beginning.Correct, right, we're right it. But you can be a Christian andstill practice meditation. So a lot of people associate meditation with Buddhism becauseit's stems from the Hindu and Buddhist culture. However, mindfulness and meditation is reallyabout being in the present moment. So John Kett's in the creator ofmindfulness, based stress production. He says that mindfulness is the awareness that ariseswhen you pay attention to the present moment, like right now, on purpose andwithout judgment, and it's a beautiful thing. It has nothing to dowith what you believe. It's just about being in the moment and even inI don't know if you've ever heard this but even in Christianity they say thatwhen you're praying you talk to God,...

...when you're meditating, God is talkingto you. Oh Wow, that's such a beautiful saying. Yeah, it'svery interesting because you know, your African American. My parents are Hispanic,right, like. So, for I know for my chure, for sure, like when you start talking about meditation and they start they start associate beingit directly to Buddhism. It's almost like you're pulling away from the culture thatyou are raised in and it's like you get this backlash. Did you receiveany backlash from the community when you first started on your journey? Oh,definitely, because people don't really a lot of people don't understand what meditation is. So it's weird to some people. But once you explain it and theyexperience it, it's like a shift and then they become advocates. But itdepends, it really depends on what you guide. So, for example,if I guide someone who's like a hardcore Christian boot Baptist person, you know, like people that are Baptist and pentecostal methodist. Sometimes they speak in tongues. So I would not do a primordial sound meditation which is using Sanskrit becauseit's a sanscript mantra, but I wouldn't use that with them to start becauserepeating a mantra from another language might be intimidating. So I would start withmindfulness and then after they learn to trust me and know and really allow meto explain what primordial sound meditation is, then we might go into that.But even then sometimes people say I'm not going to say something, I don'tknow, but they might repeat a mantra in English. The only problem withthat is when you repeat a mantra using words that have a meaning, thenit shifts your attention to the meaning instead of the vibration of the mantra.I hope that makes sense to you. Yeah, absolutely. It looks almostshifting your mind to continue thinking versus detaching from thought. Right. Correct,correct. Yeah. So what types of meditation do you teach? I offermindfulness meditation and also primordial sound meditation, and that's from Depot Chopra. Soif you've ever heard of transcendental meditation, deepoc study transcendental meditation and then Hecreated his own Sanskrit based primordial sound meditation, and it's the differences that with mindfulness, you bring yourself back to the present moment by focusing on your breathand your body, awareness of your body, and with primordial sound meditation you bringyourself back by focusing on sanscript mantra as an anchor. So you everytime you notice that you're thinking, then you start reciting your mantra silently toyourself. So those are the two that I offer. Which one's your favorite? Well, I've been on two retreats to silent retreats. Will actually three, but I've been on two different of silent retreats. One was primordial soundmeditation and one was mindfulness. The one for primordial sound meditation, I cameback singing. It was such a beautiful experience, but there was talking inbetween. So that's the disclaimer. I don't know what it would be likeif I weren't talking. When I came back from the mindfulness meditation Retreet,it was a completely silent retreat. So I didn't talk for a week.And so there was when you're not talking... other people, than there's nograsping and rejecting. You know, you're not like reaching for other people's ideasand opinions or rejecting their ideas and opinions, and so there was more inward innerwork, which caused me to be more emotional, but I got moreinsight. So I think that both of them are good. Both both ofthem are beneficial and I could, I think, that always go back tomindfulness, because it's easy throughout the day, I think, to focus on yourbreath. You even notice like if you're stressed, you take this deepbreath, sometimes unintentionally, but you take it and then when you release itslike, Oh, you must be stressed. Have you ever done that, liketook a breath? Yes, regularly. Yeah, and then you realize,well, I must be stressed out, because why am I breathing like this? You know, like you can hear you go, yourself go,you know it, but that felt good, you know. So, yeah,yeah, it's almost like the stress kind of leaves the body through thebreath pretty quickly. Yeah, it doesn't take it all away, but itdoes give you a like it's almost like your body telling you it's time toreset. Yeah, it gives you a moment, a moment of awareness.Yeah, it's beautiful. So so, since we're talking about the power ofmeditation, what do you think has been the most powerful lesson you've learned throughyour practice of meditation. The most powerful thing that I've learned through meditation isthat the answers are in the silence meditation. I can tell you a few things, but meditation really helps improve your intuition, and the thing is,the more you meditate, the more aware you become. However, sometimes youget busy and then you stop meditating and then you realize that the things thatwere coming easy to you before aren't as easy. For example, I naturallyhave high anxiety, but when I meditate every day, my anxiety is soreduced to the point where there really is no anxiety. And then so aftera while all I might say, Oh, I'm so busy, I don't havetime and I'll do this later. And then what eventually happens is,you know, my husband might say was last time you meditate it and I'mlike why? Because you're you're being kind of you know, you're poking atthings and you know you seem an anxious or irritated and I just don't getthat way with when I meditate consistently, because I'm way more conscious. I'mable to articulate my perspective from a more loving way, you know, froma more loving place and and I'm able to hear people fully without the innerdialog. You know, so so much is going on. When you meditate, it just keeps you in this. Well, do you do? Yousmoke. No Marijuana. Okay, so when people smoke, sometimes people thathave high anxiety use an indica marijuana so that they can even themselves out andbe like really calm and cool. But the thing is it's dependent, andI'm not judging anybody for smoking, because some people need it, especially peoplewith METSD and cancers. But but you you need it in order to bethere. But when you meditate consistently, it keeps you there and that,I think, is one of the biggest benefits of meditation, that you don'thave to take something in that moment.

Because if you meditate every single dayin the morning for like twenty to thirty minutes, then it carries you everyit starts being this. So Deepak Chopra talks about this gap in the gapis the space between your thinking. It's this you're breathing becomes shallow and you'refully in the present moment. And the more you meditate, the more youexperience that gap in your daily life and that's the thing that keeps you atease. So you know, like I said, marijuana does hope for somepeople, but it's it has to be accessed, and the thing is withmeditation, it's free and it's always accessible, and that's the thing I just loveabout meditation. What would you tell the person, because I'm sure you'veheard these people, the theysayers, were always like well, I don't havetime to sit down, or how do I sit fill for so long?There, you know, and I guess I remember. I think one ofthe funny things is like, when I first started practicing, I wanted everysingle person under the sun to do it with me too. Right. Iwas like no, you have to say it's like that's feeling, and you'reabsolutely right. It looks like you're just like on this peaceful high that nothingelse can replace, you know. And and then it would always be thatNASA air who's like, well, I can't sit stail or you know,I thought, you know, twenty minutes. That's a long time, and everyonethinks that you just have to start with this massive amount of time.It's like no, like everyone starts at a different space. But yeah,what what do you normally tell those that, because I'm sure you hear it alot from from everyone's like, I don't have time for that. Whatis your rebuttaled for that? Okay, so I say that you can doit now. Some people, some of my clients, outside of the thirdthe onehour meditation at the gallery throughout the week, they might like just getin their car and take a breath, and so I suggest that you candownload insight timer or go on youtube and just pull something up. You canuse it to go to sleep, you can use it when you get inyour car, you can even use it. Mindfulness is just about being aware ofwhatever you're doing in the moment. So you can take a glass ofcold water and put the Rim of the glass on your bottom lip, feelthe coldness on your lip, the hard glass on your lip, and thenslowly put the cold water in your mouth. When the waters in your mouth,you just feel the cold water. Don't swallow, just feel it onyour tongue, on the roof of your mouth, and then, when youchoose to, you make a conscious effort to swallow the cold water and whenyou swallow it, you feel it going down your throat all the way tillthe bottom of your belly and when you feel it in your belly, youtake another SIP. It's a beautiful experience in present moment awareness. So I'veseen you do this on facebook and I think it's like one of the mostpowerful things is to actually hear you talk about it and see you do itas well, and you're almost like savoring the water at the same time andbeing present in that moment. Yes, and what you call those like yourmindful moments or yeah, and you just gave me an idea to do thatagain, because I haven't done that in a while, but I love thatone, specifically to do the sipping of the tea. So it can behot or it can be cold, but doing that really just brings you inthe present moment. Tick, not Hans says so. Tick Mat Han isa meditation leader in the world and he talks about eating an apple, likereally savoring the apple, you know,...

...holding it, feeling that how hardit is, looking at the color, the dense in the apple. Youtake a bite, Eche it, you chew it until you can't chew itanymore than you choose to swallow it. It's it's just a nice experience.Have you done it? Not The apple per se, but the water.I have practiced it in the past and I think one of the most beautifulthings about that, though, it really just helps you clear your mind ofthe clutter for like one minute, you know, clear your mind of likeeverything that's going on. We are so caught with so much, that somany things daily trying to get our attention and not not a lot, notenough of the contents that we're getting it. Hey, you know, give ita second, just breathe, it's okay. Yeah, you know,just give yourself a second to be present in that moment. I think thoseare those moments that are so important, like for you to savor something assimple and as pure as water and take that and really give yourself the opportunityto meditate. And I thought it was just like one of my favorite thingsto watch you do. And I know it sounds kind of buddy, butit's like we're so we're so connected in this world now with social media that, you know, just you know, it definitely captures the mind when you'rescrolling through and you see someone doing something that you're like wow, this youknow, I've been missing out on a lot of single things. I thinkthat's another thing that I love about meditation personally. It's just like it remindsyou that you're missing out on so much because you're going a thousand miles anhour. Absolutely every single moment there's something happening, and the more you meditate, the more you notice those moments and that is irreplaceable, irreplaceable to bethe more you meditated also allows you to connect with other people, so you'reable to be present, you know, because what does everyone want? Theywant to be seen, heard and validated. And when you put your phone downand you look up and you make eye contact with someone when they're talkingto you, it's just in really hear them without the inner dialog. Youknow, that's just such a beautiful thing. Hmmm, how long? I lovethat you brought up the word inner dialog. How long did it takefor you to be able to get in control of the inner dialog? Oh, I'm not. No, I'm not. Thank you for your honest yeah,yeah, I mean so there are times when I sit down for meditation. I try to meditate every morning for thirty minutes a day, and Isometimes it's I have a super busy mind and sometimes I just remember to constantlybring myself back to the present moment. So the thing is in the moreyou bring yourself back, the more you are able to slip into the gap. But the gap is such a short moment of fully present moment awareness andthen you notice here in the gap and then you're out of the gap andyou start thinking, Oh, I was in the gap. So it's justwhat was the question again? What you say? Oh, at taming,that that the money was being able to Yeteah, yeah, or the MonkeyMind? Right, yeah, the monkey mind. And so a lot ofpeople posted something recently about meditation in a lot of people were saying, I'mI can't get my mind to to just be still, I can't erase allmy thoughts. And it's about not so much erasing your thoughts, because you'reliving, so you're always going to have a stream of consciousness in a streamof thinking that will come up, and so it's really about not so mucherasing the thoughts but noticing them. And when you notice the thought, it'sremembering to bring yourself back by focusing on...

...your breath or your mantra. Soit's two words. It's noticing and remembering, noticing the thought, Oh, I'mthinking bringing yourself back, remembering to bring yourself back by focusing on yourinbreath and your outbreath or your mantra. That is, that is a verygood tool to you so hard to remember. Yeah, I'm like, I've beenmeditating now, at this point in my life, for about five,four or five years, and even I you know, like I said,it's now become a routine as as yours, not as like in the morning orwhatever. I bind myself getting to that point the day when like,oh my gosh, I forgot, or Oh, I need to do itnow, because I can self at highest points of anxiety, and I'm gladthat you were so open to talk about the fact that you have anxiety.That's one of the reasons why meditation helped me so much, is because Iwas suffering through like depression and anxiety and it really helped bring me back tocenter. So but yeah, even throughout the day. Once, like yousaid earlier, you know, Oh, I haven't you know, I haven'tgotten it all together yet. It's very true of you know, meditative practices. If we could all sit there, as a Buddhist monk all day long. Right then we could get into it a lot easier. But obviously thereare a lot of other things we have going on. So for those momentsthat you get into the gap, it's just so important, is it is? It's so worth it to sit there. Sometimes it's worth it to sit therefor thirty minutes just to get one or two moments in the gap.But your we're going in the gap throughout the day anyway. We just don'tnotice it. But the experience of choosing to be in the gap by sittingin stillness is the beautiful thing, honoring your space, in your time,in your love for presence. You know, yeah, you have any stories thatany of your students have shared with you about how meditation has changed theirlives? Sure, I have one story of this lady. Her name isClaudia and I'm sure she'll be fine with me telling the story. She wentto the doctor and the doctor was taken her blood pressure and her blood pressurewas kind of high and she said wait, let me take this again. Ican breathe through this, and so she started slowly controlling her breath andthe nurse that I'm literally watching your blood pressure lower. That was wool.Yeah, that's pretty cool. And another person, one of my girlfriends,she said that she was sitting at in the DMV and her blood pressure wasrising, she was stressed out and she just started taking breaths in and out, in and out, and her broth, I mean, and she just startedfeeling better. And people say all the time that since they've meditated theyjust feel more calm. It their whole day is shifted. If you startyour day in the morning meditating, the rest of your day is just likeit just goes so much more easy. You know, it's just it's thatit's medicine. You know it's medicine. It really is, and it's thatmedicine that you don't have to that you don't feel weird about afterwards or youknow your body's not having a random reaction to. It's like your body's naturalmedicine. One thing I want to say is that when some people come tomeditation, I say breathe in through your nose and out through your mouth,but outside of that we're really breathing in and out through our nostrils. Butone thing that you should do or that you can do to help you notget dizzy because some people think they're supposed to breathe in and out through there, in through their nose, out through their mouth. You breathe in andout through your nostrils, but in between...

...the breaths you hold your breath,and that's a way to like slowly bring it in. When you can't bringin anymore are you take one more sip of air and hold it for aslong as you can, and when you can't hold the breath any longer,you slowly control your ex hew out, and doing it in that way,it the pauses are the things that prevent you from hyperventilating, you know,or getting busy. So if you want to breathe and you hold your breath, breathe out and sometimes you can breathe in, hold your breath, breatheout, hold your breath, breathe in, breathe out, holding breath in between. That's a that's really good. I'm glad that you mentioned that because, yeah, there are those moments sometimes where you feel like you're like gaspingforever. Yeah, yeah, so, Stephanie, you just had an expofor women in New Orleans for, I. Yes, reclaiming so with them.So tell me a little bit about that. Okay. So reclaiming thegoddess with them is a women's empowerment and mindfulness weekend. It's the first weekendin June. We have about between one and two hundred women that come inand we have speakers, Meditatian guides, motivational speakers, Yoga instructors, selfhealing authors, and they do talks and exercises around Selflove, mindfulness, compassion, gratitude. And I'm also hosting a silent retreat and November and that's goingto be a week, weekend long event from Thursday to Sunday, and it'sgoing to be completely silent and it's all centered around letting go of your needto control. Oh my gosh, I need that in my life. Iunfortunately you cannot make it to New Orleans on that weekend, but I sawthat I was like, Oh my God, I need that in my life.So how do you go about letting go of control through silence? Well, when you're in the present moment, you're only living in what is existingat this time. But a lot of the times when we have a needto control, your constantly living in the future and there's anxiety and fear aroundthe future. And so what we'll do is, other than meditations and UgiChegong Yoga and walking meditations and journaling, will also have talks every night aboutletting go of the need to control. And what is it? Need tostand in your own personal space and hold your space and not use your powerto externalize or project what other people are doing or what other people might sayyour feel but instead just trusting yourself, leaning into your personal power. Wow, I feel like everyone who's listening probably should attend. For sure, let'ssay somebody wants to get in touch with you, if they're visiting New Orleansor if they live live in New Orleans and they want to come by andsee you or sit through one of your guided meditation classes. How do theyget Ahold of you? Okay, so they can go to meditate new ORLEANSCOMor they can text me at fibile four two, three two, seventy thirty. The weekend the silent women's retreat is November twenty one through the twenty four, two thousand and nineteen. It's the weekend before Thanksgiving, and so wehost guided meditations at Terence Osborne Gallery on Thursday and Saturday mornings at ten amand Thursday and those are only ten dollars,...

...and then Thursday evenings at thirty pm, those are free and they're all about connections self, love, lettinggo and feeling amazing. I can definitely vouch for it. As I mentionedbefore you guys, I used to go to her classes when I lived inNew Orleans, so I felt the need to want to talk to her aboutthe power of meditation on this episode because it's so it's just been such aninstrumental tool in general to help me calm my anxiety and so many other peoplewho, as I was mentioning to Stephanie earlier, so many people who've actuallystarted coming on to the show of Tart, talked about meditation and Yoga and justkind of the ability to can let go for the second to fall intothat gap, as you mentioned. So is there anything else you'd like tosay before we sign off on this episode? I just want to say thank you, Rita, for having me. This is so sweet of you.I love what you're doing and there's a need for people just like you inthis world and you're shining your light. I'm proud of you and now Imust stay. Now I must stay well, thank you so much, Stephanie,for joining me for empowerment and all that. You guys, if youwould like to get Ahold of Stephanie, I'll go ahead and put all thisinformation in the show notes. All right, guys. Well, till the nextepisode, make sure to keep it positive or don't keep it at all. Thanks for tuning in to empowerment and all that podcast with your host,Reada Bautista. Want to help me grow the listener tribe? Make sure tosubscribe to this podcast and follow us on instagram and facebook under empowerment and allthat, and remember, keep it positive or don't keep it at all.

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