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Season 2, Episode · 2 years ago

Creating boundaries during Covid-19

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Creating boundaries during Covid-19 is essential for everyone, especially those single folks out there. I dive into making sure to communicate your boundaires and understanding that setting boundaries is setting up the love that you have for yourself. I talk about the project Latinapodcasters.com that I have been working on and how you can join the Virtual Happy Hour Thursday nights at 7pm cst. I am also talk about how I am creating designated areas in my home for work, dinner and play, putting on makeup and to show up for myself. This definelty has not been an easy journey but I am learning one step at a time. We are all in this together. and remember, "keep it positive or don't keep it at all!' -Rita B. follwo me on instagram: https://instagram.com/ritaebautista or the podcast: https:instagram.com/empowermentandallthat on Latina Podcasters: https://instagram.com/latinapodcasters This podcast is dedicate to all my empowerment circle of supporters and patrons who are loyal followers and support this podcast. For more information on becoming part of the goddesses, visit: https://www.patreon.com/Empowermentandallthat --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/rita-bautista/message

You're listening to empowerment and all that, podcast, your favorite podcast for women's empowerment, hosted by Rita Bautista. It's time to be reminded of the authority of your inner goddess and elevate the power within. Are you ready? Well, well, well, covid nineteen, here we are, week three at home in quarantine. How are you doing? I know I'm still trying to figure this out and with my dog at my right hand side, who won't leave me alone, I'm ready to explode. Don't get me wrong, he doesn't talk back, so I guess I have it a little bit better than most people, but I'm just being honest. You guys. This whole quarantine ...

...thing, it's been great. Don't get me wrong, because I do appreciate the isolation in the solitude. A lot of the silence has been great, but it has sucked some spaces more than others. But what's interesting is is I wanted to give a perspective of the single gals version of living in covid nineteen. What is the single Gal doing? Well, for those of you who know me, I've been working on a project called Latina podcasters for a little while now. It's a business that has jump started an opportunity for women who are Latina's and podcasting to connect to other Latinas were podcasting, to also learn resource tools and guides, and the next step is to create a monetizing option for everyone who is podcasting as well. So I've been working on that day and night and I've also been doing my job, my current job,...

...which you guys know, I'm in healthcare, has been really hard, I'm not going to lie, because I've built relationships with these people over the last two years and some of these people they don't have the opportunity to stay home and they have to go into work, and hearing their stories and their frustrations and their fears and their excitements and everything else, it makes me thankful that I'm at home, but it's still makes me a little sad. So here's the thing. The reason I wanted to talk about boundaries today was because, during a time where our lives are all being handled in one space, finding opportunities for us to create boundaries is really different a cult. I was lucky to have gotten my house analyzed right before we jumped into covid nineteen quarantine and...

I had this really awesome woman who did this like quick, minor assessment of my house. She looked at my walls that I've talked about over and over again, that I write on and everything, and then she looked at the space that I utilize to do work and she said, Rita, I love the decor, but you have to respect your boundaries of your home. And I was like, what are you talking about? I do respect my boundaries, and she's like, no, what you have to do is create space for your life. To create boundaries is and my dinner tables where I work right now, even though I have a nook. I have a desk in a Nook, in a space where I could work from but it's not facing the light. I am a light person. I need to hear water, which has been extremely helpful that I live close to the pool my apartment complex.

So every morning now, part of my morning routine is to wake up, open all the windows and the doors, take my cup of coffee and go sit out on my porch and listen to the water for a little while. Why? I write in my gratitude journal the three things that I'm grateful for and then go and walk my dog. But the reason she said that was she was absolutely right, which is really interesting. Why? She's like, you need to create a space on your table that specifically related just to eating dinner and the other side you can make into your personal desk in your space. And I said, well, I have a Nook, you know, I could work from there, and she could automatically read my energy and said, no, that's not the space that you work from. That will work for you. That's just not the space. So learn to create boundaries in your life. Felt like it was the most profound thing I've ever heard...

...anyone ever tell me before, because, look, I haven't always been the best person at boundaries right, but creating them has helped me realize so many things these days. So I wondered how I could take that idea of creating boundaries on one table right and how that would change my life. Just in a very small period of time. I started to notice little things. One, I hadn't set my table in two years, since I purchased my mats from my table and the Napkins and the napkin holders. I had never set my table. So I at the table and the cool thing about working from my dinner table and actually seeing the setup is that I actually want to sit down for dinner. Now I am a little isolated, but occasionally I'll have...

...a friend stopped by and I get a chance to chat and I will move things out of the way and I will make sure that we sit down at the dinner table to eat and talk. And just by creating that space, I was able to remind myself that that's a place that I honor me being myself, me nurturing my body, and the other side, obviously I remember that that's the space that I do work. And it's weird because now I make sure to give myself time for breaks in between work, eat, breathe space. How are you creating boundaries in your life right now? We're at a very, very difficult time right we're in quarantine, we are around more people than we're used to, we are communicating more with people that we are...

...used to. And listen, I only have a dog right now in my house, and even that's difficult because even my dog is taking time to try to re understand me, reconnect with me, knowing that I'm here seven and trust me, this dog thinks that I'm his master. He's my master, but if an animal takes time to adjust to the boundaries that are being created. During the time of complete isolation, can you only imagine those around you and how they feel, and also remember that you must communicate the same thing about the way that you are feeling with them as well. Give yourself time to go for a walk, a thirty minute break if you need a mommy break. Sign up for virtual happy hours so you can have conversations with adults.

Let thea podcasters, which I'm so lucky to be the founder of. We're actually hosting virtual happy hours for letting a podcasters every Thursdays. Now on Zoom. There's a ten dollar buying but if you go to at letting a podcasters in Instagram, you can find the zoom link and you can also send information there for for to log into the actual workshop. But find these spaces and which you can still be yourself. Just because you're an isolation doesn't necessarily mean that you have to stop being who you are. If your life normally consisted of you working out or you reading for thirty minutes, are you going for a walk for thirty minutes? Don't stop that space just because you still have to create those boundaries to new truth. To create nutrients for your own...

...personal soul, for your mind. You have to be able to still continue on in your own space and teach your children to also create that boundary space as well. If you're healthy, everyone else around you also absorbs that healthiness, and that is translated in so many ways. Right now, a lot of us are living our lives through social media and through video chats, but make sure that you're still protecting your energy in this time as well. Creating boundaries is also creating a regiment. Waking up at the same time says you used to when you went to work, even if you don't have to be there on time. For the first two weeks of isolation, I promised myself that I was going to put makeup on every day and that I was going to get dressed every day. Now that might sound funny because I literally just...

...get up take you know, brush my teeth, take my dog out, do my my gratitude journal in the morning, drink my coffee. But if I'm not doing my hair and I'm not doing my makeup, am I really fully functional for the day? Am I really putting my full attention into my work? If I knew that my routine. Before, in order for me to feel fully functioning and on, I needed to put on makeup and change and fix my hair, but now I'm no longer doing that. Am I fully showing up for myself. And that's what really boundaries are. They're showing up for yourself, the reminding yourself that you're still important. Maybe makeup isn't your thing, but there's something else that you're not doing that you should be implementing, even if it's not at the full hundred percent that you used to give before being in quarantine. Make sure that you set strong boundaries for yourself...

...in order to create an opportunity for your mental health to stay at a great space. Thanks for tuning in to empowerment and all that podcast with your host read Aboutista. Want to help me grow the listener tribe. Make sure to subscribe to this podcast and follow us on instagram and facebook. Under empowerment and all that, and remember, keep it positive or don't keep it at all.

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