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Season 1, Episode · 2 years ago

5 Tips to Regain Your Confidence

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Hey sister! Do you feel lost, feel like your confidence is gone? Do you need to know how to regain your inner beautiful Wonder Woman that is inside of you? In this episode, I dive into 5 tips to help you regain your confidence and have you find that inner confident you again! --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/rita-bautista/message

You are listening to empowerment andall that podcast, your favorite podcast for women's empowerment, hosted by RidaBautista, it's time to be reminded of the authority of your inner goddess andelevate the power within. Are you ready, hey guys, it's Reeta here withempowerment and all that your favorite podcast for woman empowerment ontoday's episode, I'll be talking about five different ways to build yourconfidence. Have you gotten to a point in your life where you get in stuck ina Rut or your feeling like you're, not living your best life or you just feellike you need that little bit of boose to make sure that you continue pushingyourself every single day. Well, I fell in into those places. I think everysingle person under the sun has gotten to a place in their lives sonetimeswhere they lose themselves and it's perfectly normal, especially as women,because we have so many hats that we wear. We do so many things for peoplereal regularly and obviously our emotions are also tied and involved tothat. So we don't compartmentalize as well as men do and for that particularreason there are points in our lives where we can get to this place. Wherewe look in the Mirr and were like. Who is this person? I don't know you. Whydo I feel this way? Why don't? I feel, like the Badass Teva, that I am or theboss, lady, that I am or you know the mom who's rocking it like? I normallyam, and you know it's totally. Okay and one of the most beautiful things aboutliving in this time is that people are so candidly open about these times intheir lives right, and so there are a few things that you can do to kind ofhelp yourself get back to that special place that that woman that superwomanthe you know just feeling feeling your best self and I'll give you a few of mytips that I normally use and tell you...

...how it actually has worked for me. So one of the most simplest ways- and thisis like you can literally fix- give yourself a little tiny boost ofconfidence in, like literally less than five seconds is by fixing your posturea majority of the time, wwe're, not feeling well or we're. You know,slugging throughout the day our shoulders are forward our heads down,especially if you work in an office. This is like one of the most importantthings to do is fix your posture, and it automatically gives you a boost ofendorphins and pushes you forward a little bit now. The way youdo it is you push the shoulders back now? If you want to stand up, you cando this too stand up and stand in your supermampos. Put Your shoulders back,put your hands on your hip, push your chest out head up Chin up and youautomatically feel just a little bit better and what's interesting aboutthat is. I was at the Rachel Hollis event and I keep talking about howawesome this conference was. But I literally was there a few months ago now, a few weeks ago,and while I was there at Thi at this conference, Rachel Hallis had all of usdoing the superwoman post to remind us about our confidence and, what'sinterestingly, what's interesting about that is like she had like. Seventhousand women doing H, supermampos and super woman. Sorry Super Woman pose andall these women literally changed their perspective and their mindset and theirconfidence was boosted just a little bit, even if it didn't change theirlives. But what it was. What you were able to do is kind of like stop, thattrain of thought immediately and look forward and lift your Chin up and pickyour head up off the ground and put your shoulders back and put your chestout, and it automatically gives you that feeling of the confidence womanthat strong woman, who can do anything who can be a mom who can be a wife whocan be an entrepreneur who can be a...

...doctor? Who can you know, run thatboard meeting or just you know, run the playgroup, the woman who knows how tomultitask, and so it really just kind of gives you that stance that stamina,so that's one of the things that you can do and literally at any moment. Soif you're feeling like that, if you're listening to me at your house right nowput your hands on your waist, put your shoulders back chin up chest out. You got this lady, so another thing that I tend to do tohelp me boost my confidence, and I've said this before is listening tomotivational inspirational videos. First thing in the morning is thehardest time for me to get up, I'm just honest about it: I'm not the biggestmorning person. I am not the strongest getting my mindset in the right place,and so in order to recondition myself, I listen to motivational motivationalmusic motivational, inspirational video, sorry and what that does. Is itretrains my mind and again stopping yourself in that overthinking of like Iam not enough. I can't do this. I don't want to get out of bed. It really juststarts to push you and move you in the direction in which you need to go sothat way, you're feeling a little bit more confident about yourself whenyou're actually getting something accomplished. One of the things that Ialso make sure to do is to give myself an automatic win first thing in themorning and that automatic win believe it or not, is the moment I pop out ofbed. I immediately make my bed and what that does is. It gives me asense of fulfilment and satisfaction that I've already accomplished one ofmy goals for the day and Ats, simple and as easy as that may seem, and itmight be part of a routine, knowing that I can't get back into my bedpushes me and puts me in motion to keep going and that in turn boosts my confidenceto know that if I've accomplished one small thing in the morning that I willcontinue to accomplish more things...

...throughout the day. Third Thing: I do, you know, I know this, it may sound alittle shallow and it might not be for everyone, but I really do believe thatthe way that you make yourself look on the outside is a reflection of how youfeel on the inside, and sometimes we do, ladies, we do have to fake it till wemake it and sometimes getting up and doing your hair and brushing your teethand putting makeup on your face and doing all this stuff, maybe a lot ofwork. But when you look at your reflection in the mirror- and you seeyourself as a beautiful being staring back at you, even if you don't have toput makeup on your face- maybe it's just washing your face, but taking care of yourself self careis one of the most easiest ways to help boost your confidence. Give yourself a facial, rub you giveyourself a hand, massage rub. Your temples believe that you are worthy ofall this love and it will multiply. It will continue to show once you startloving yourself. First, even if you have to force yourself to do it, it will multiply and it will show yourconfidence on the exterior and it will allow for you to also believe it,because when others believe in you, you believe in yourself too, so give yourself a few minutes to tryto be a little bit more kind to yourself and try some self care. The fifth thing I'm going to tell youis: make sure that you're not talking down to yourself. Sometimes the reason we lose. Ourconfidence is because we're playing this battle with E we're fighting inthe biggest war of all time, and that war is with me myself and I, and that battle is only one by stoppingthe negative self talk. And how do you do that? You know exactly that: little voice inyour head that little voice. That tells...

...you you're not good enough that littlevoice. That tells you you can't compete at this level that little voice thattells you you're a woman. You don't deserve this or I'll, never find love,because I'm too crazy I'll never find love, because I'm not strong enoughI'll, never find love, because I can't have a child I'll, never have love,because I come from a broken home, I'll, never find love an in these things arethe worst things to listen to because they are not true. None of the things that you allowyourself to hear repeated back to you in your own personal mind are not true. You have to dust yourself off sometimesand remember that on the inside there is the most beautiful human beingpossible and that person is capable of anything in this world. All they haveto do is stop overthinking and stop the negative self talk immediately. So as soon as you hear yourself talkingbad to yourself, you need to figure out a way to stop pull a trig pull atrigger to stop the negative Selftalk, and by that I mean give yourselfsomething that reminds you at that moment, when you're about to talk downto yourself, when you feel like your confidence, is dropping, you need toimmediately pop up and say no sister. This is not today. This is nothappening today. I am so much better than this. I know I can do this. I amconfident there are people who've had way less than me that have accomplishedway more or I am at this level, because I've gotten here, because I am a Badass,and you need to remind yourself of that every single day, even if you're, in aterrible situation right now, even if you're in a terrible space, you're selfworth is still just as valuable as the person who is not in a bad place.

Remember that Youre self worth is notany less than the person who is not in a bad place, and you will get back toyour place where you're owning your shine very quickly, so make sure that any time you're aboutto talk negative to yourself, you say no girlfriend today. I am worth just as much asanother person who is in a better place than I am right now and this this isjust temporary. These ideas, these thoughts, these values, in my mind thatI believe are important but they're really not true. They don't matter they don't matter because at the end ofthe day, you're going to get up just like the other person you're goingto wake up you're going to open your eyes, inon the most fundamental level,we all still have a heartbeat and we all bleed the same. So if we can do allof that exactly the same, that means that we are all on the same playingfield. We just have to prove it to ourselves. I've been there and I have so muchcompassion and empathy for those who are going through a tough time whenthey've lost their confidence when they don't know where to go when they'reconfused when they're feeling sad and low or they feel like they've, been givenit they're all and they just haven't been able to get that break frorgh thebreakthrough that they've been looking for, and it's like you know, you neverknow how far you're going to get. If you give up and the last person you should give upon as yourself, you can give so much credit and so much motivation and somuch inspiration to other people around you. Why don't you give it back toyourself? Take a look at yourself right now andfind three things that you like about yourself and even if you're looking like you,haven't washed your hair in days or if...

...you haven't shaved or whatever. What are the three things you likeabout yourself? They don't have to be physical, theycan be. You know your characteristics, your personality, the ways that you acttowards people. I know my three things. I love my neck, that's one of myphysical things, a little vain I know, but I love it. You know I really trulylove it. The other thing I love about myself is my ability to not stop whenthings are stacked against me, and I had to learn that when I lost myconfidence, I had to remind myself that I knew I had the tools put in place forme to be able to get out of this space, but I just needed to remember that Ineed to get back down to my fundamentals and remember why I was putin this earth on the first place and this isn't necessarily align with yourpurpose, but it can. If you know what your purpose is, and maybe you justneed a reminder of like hey, you know what my purpose is to make sure thatI'm maintaining relationships with people, because I like to be social. So how do I realign back with that andthen you notice? Okay, you know what I like to be social. I haven't been outind about in a while. Maybe I need to figure out a way to become a socialbutterfly again to get me going or oh or you know, is it something thatyou like to do? Do you like to write? Have you stopped writing like thelittle things that really are part of our genetic makeup and there's only oneof you out in this world right so, like only you know exactly what makes youhappy you know, did you do karate back in the day? Did you like to so? Did youlike to knit what did you do as a child that you really loved as a hobby, andhow can you get yourself back into that space again to allow you to refind whothat person was at your foundation to help you reboost your confidence, and my third thing that I really loveabout myself is that this is actually a...

...downfall. It has been my downfall, but it is alsoone of my strengths is that I have compassion and empathy for a lot ofpeople and I don't like to see people hurting and sometimes to my owndetriment, because I give too much of myself when I don't necessarily getthat reciprocated. But here's the thing I'm not going to stop doing that,because I am a good person at my core and I love helping people, and if I can,I will, I will give much more than anybody will ever give me an return andI'm okay with that. I just needed to learn to come to terms with that inorder to realize where my strength and my weakness as lied, and so I'm telling you all this becauseI feel as though we all literally have the ability to rebuild ourselves andbuild our confidence back again. If you figure out how to get back down to yourfundamentals, figure out what made you happy as a child figure out. What wassomething that you were never afraid to do, because it was just part of you and sometimes it's not something.That's going to make you your money for the rest of your life. Sometimes it'sjust a hobby that you pick up or finding finding something that youreally truly love to do that. You know it might not monetize orit does become your passion and you're living your passion by working throughit and you're not worrying about money, because money will flow once you alignto your passion but mtruthfully and it's fundamental core. I reallytruly hope for you all that this podcast episode goes out to the earsthat need to hear it girlfriend. You are not alone in thisworld, and I promise you we have all been through this at least once and thefact that we are such nurturing human beings and our emotions are tied to alot of the things that we do. Losing our confidence is not the end of theworld, but regaining it is such a...

...beautiful thing, because, from thatpoint on, you now have the tools to remember how to rebuild yourself backup again and the thing about failure. Failure is only the ability to teachyou how to pivot honey and you're. Going to Pivit a bunch of times in yourlife- and the good thing is- is that the more you feel the faster you learnhow to pivot, so things will get better. I promise thanks for tuning into empowerment andall that podcast with your host. Read Aboutista want to help me grow thelistener tribe, make sure to subscribe to this podcast and follow us oninstagram and facebook under empowerment, and all that and remember,keep it positive or DUNP. Keep it it all.

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