Empodera Latina
Empodera Latina

Season 1, Episode · 3 years ago

5 Tips to Regain Your Confidence


Hey sister! Do you feel lost, feel like your confidence is gone? Do you need to know how to regain your inner beautiful Wonder Woman that is inside of you? In this episode, I dive into 5 tips to help you regain your confidence and have you find that inner confident you again! --- Send in a voice message:

You're listening to empowerment and all that podcast, your favorite podcast for women's empowerment, hosted by Rita Bautista. It's time to be reminded of the authority of your inner goddess and elevate the power within. Are you ready? Hey, guys, it's ready to here with empowerment and all that, your favorite podcast for women empowerment. On today's episode, I'll be talking about five different ways to build your confidence. Have you gotten to a point in your life where you get in stuck in a Rut, or you're feeling like you're not living your best life, or you just feel like you need that little bit of boost to make sure that you continue pushing yourself every single day? Well, I fell into those places. I think every single person under the sun has gotten to a place in their lives sometimes where they lose themselves, and it's perfectly normal, especially as women, because we have so many hats that we wear, we do so many things for people really regularly and obviously our emotions are also tied and involved to that, so we don't compartmentalize as well as men do, and for that particular reason there are points in our lives where we can get to this place where we look in the mirror we're like, who is this person? And I don't know you. Why do I feel this way? Why don't I feel like the Badass diva that I am, or the boss lady that I am or, you know, the mom who's rock in it, like I normally am. And you know, it's totally okay, and one of the most beautiful things about living in this time is that people are so candidly open about these times in their lives right and so there are a few things that you can do to kind of help yourself get back to that special place, that that woman, that superwoman, the you know, just feeling feeling your best self. And I'll give you a few...

...of my tips that I normally use and tell you how it actually has worked for me. So one of the most simplest ways, and this is like you can literally fix give yourself a little tiny boost of confidence in like literally less than five seconds, is by fixing your posture. A majority of the time we're not feeling well or we're, you know, slugging throughout the day, our shoulders are forward, our heads down, especially if you work in an office. This is like one of the most important things to do is fix your posture and it automatically gives you a boost of endorphins and pushes you forward a little bit. Now, the way you do it is you push your shoulders back. Now, if you want to stand up, you can do this to stand up and stand in your superman pose. Push your shoulders back, put your hands on your hip, push your chest out, head up, Chin up, and you automatically feel just a little bit better. And what's interesting about that is I was at the Rachel Hollis events and I keep talking about how awesome this conference was, but I literally was there a few months ago and a few weeks ago, and while I was there at this at this conference, Rachel Hollis had all of us doing the superwoman post to remind us about our confidence. And what's interestingly, what's interesting about that is like she had like seven thousand women doing the superman pose and super woman, sorry, superwoman pose, and all these women literally change their perspective and their mindset and their confidence was boosted just a little bit, even if it didn't change their lives, but what it was they what you were able to do is kind of like stop that train of thought immediately and look forward and lift your Chin up and pick your head up off the ground and put your shoulders back and put your chest out, and it automatically gives you that feeling of the confidence woman, that strong woman who can do anything, who can be a mom, who can be a wife, who can be an entrepreneur,...

...who can be a doctor, who can, you know, run that board meeting or just, you know, run the play group, the woman who knows how to multitask, and so it really just kind of gives you that stand. It's that Stamin us. So that's one of the things that you can do, and literally at any moment. So if you're feeling like that, if you're listening to me at your house right now, put your hands on your waist, put your shoulders back, Chin up, chest out. You got this, Lady. So another thing that I tend to do to help me boost my confidence, and I've said this before, is listening to motivational and inspirational videos. First thing in the morning is the hardest time for me to get up. I'm just honest about it. I'm not the biggest morning person. I am not the strongest at getting my mindset in the right place. And so, in order to recondition myself, I listen to motivational, motivational music, motivational inspirational video, sorry, and what that does is it retrains my mind and again, stopping yourself in that overthinking of like I am not enough, I can't do this, I don't want to get out of bed, it really just starts to push you and move you in the direction in which you need to go, so that way you're feeling a little bit more confident about yourself when you're actually getting something accomplished. One of the things that I also make sure to do is to give myself an automatic win first thing in the morning, and that automatic win, believe it or not, is the moment I pop out of bed, I immediately make my bed, and what that does is it gives me a sense of fulfillment and so satisfaction that I've already accomplished one of my goals for the day. And as simple and as easy as that may seem, and it might be part of a routine, knowing that I can't get back into my bed pushes me and puts me emotion to keep going, and that in turn boosts my confidence to know that if I've accomplished one small thing in the morning, that I will continue to accomplish more things throughout the day. Third thing I do you...

...know, I know this may sound a little shallow and it might not be for everyone, but I really do believe that the way that you make yourself look on the outside is a reflection of how you feel on the inside. And sometimes we do, ladies, we do have to fake it till we make it, and sometimes getting up and doing your hair and brushing your teeth and putting makeup on your face and doing all this stuff maybe a lot of work. But when you look at your reflection in the mirror and you see yourself as a beautiful being staring back at you, even if you don't have to put makeup on your face, maybe it's just washing your face, but taking care of yourself, self care is one of the most easiest ways to help boost your confidence. Give yourself a facial rub, you give yourself a hand massage, Rub your temples. Believe that you are worthy of all this love and it will multiply, it will continue to show once you start it, loving yourself first, even if you have to force yourself to do it. It will multiply and it will show your confidence on the exterior and it will allow for you to also believe it, because when others believe in you, you believe in yourself too. So give yourself a few minutes to try to be a little bit more kind to yourself and try some self care. The fifth thing I'm going to tell you is make sure that you're not talking down to yourself. Sometimes, the reason we lose our confidence is because we're playing this battle with the we're fighting in the biggest war of all time, and that war is with me, myself and I, and that battle is only one. By stopping the negative self talk. And how do you do that? You know exactly that little voice in your head, that little voice...

...that tells you you're not good enough, that little voice that tells you you can't compete at this level, that little voice that tells you you're a woman, you don't deserve this. Or I'll never find love because I'm too crazy. I'll never find love because I'm not strong enough, I'll never find love because I can't have a child, I'll never have love because I come from a broken home. I'll never find love in these things are the worst things to listen to, because they are not true. None of the things that you allow yourself to hear repeated back to you in your own personal mind are not true. You have to dust yourself off sometimes and remember that on the inside there is the most beautiful human being possible, and that person is capable of anything in this world. All they have to do is stop overthinking and stop the negative self talk immediately. So as soon as you hear yourself talking bad to yourself, you need to figure out a way to stop pull a trigger. Pull a trigger to stop the negative self talk, and by that I mean give yourself something that reminds you. At that moment when you're about to talk down to yourself, when you feel like your confidence is dropping, you need to immediately pop up and say no, sister, this is not today, this is not happening today. I am so much better than this. I know I can do this. I am confident. There are people with who've had way less than me that have accomplished way more or I am at this level because I've gotten here because I am a Badass, and you need to remind yourself of that every single day, even if you're in a terrible situation right now. Even if you're in a terrible space, your self worth is still just as valuable as the person who is not in a bad place. Remember that your self worth is not any less than the person who... not in a bad place, and you will get back to your place where you're owning your shine very quickly. So make sure that any time you're about to talk negative to yourself, you say no. Girlfriend, today I am worth just as much as another person who is in a better place than I am right now. And this, this is just temporary. These ideas, these thoughts, these values in my mind that I believe are important, but they're really not true. They don't matter. They don't matter because at the end of the day, you're going to get up just like the other person. You're going to wake up, you're going to open your eyes and, on the most fundamental level, we all still have a heartbeat and we all bleed the same. So if we can do all of that exactly the same, that means that we are all on the same playing field. We just have to prove it to ourselves. I've been there and I have so much compassion and empathy for those who are going through a tough time, when they've lost their confidence, when they don't know where to go, when they're confused, when they're feeling sad and low, or they feel like they've been given it, there all and they just haven't been able to get that break for the breakthrough that they've been looking for. And it's like, you know, you never know how far you're going to get if you give up, and the last person you should give up on as yourself. You can give so much credit and so much motivation and so much inspiration to other people around you. Why don't you give it back to yourself? Take a look at yourself right now and find three things that you like about yourself. And even if you're looking like you haven't lost your hair and daise or if you haven't...

...shaved or whatever, what are the three things you like about yourself? They don't have to be physical. They can be you know your characteristics, your personality, the ways that you act towards people. I know my three things. I love my neck. That's one of my physical things. A little vain, I know, but I love it. You know, I really truly love it. The other thing I love about myself is my ability to not stop when things are stacked against me, and I had to learn that when I lost my confidence, I had to remind myself that I knew I had the tools put in place for me to be able to get out of this space, but I just needed to remember that I need to get back down to my fundamentals and remember why I was put in this earth and on the first place. And this isn't necessarily a Ligne with your purpose, but it can if you know what your purpose is and maybe you just need a reminder of like, Hey, you know what my purpose is? To make sure that I'm maintaining relationships with people, because I like to be social. So how do I realign back with that? And then you notice, okay, you know what, I like to be social. I haven't been out in about in a while. Maybe I need to figure out a way to become a social butterfly again to get me going. or Oh, or you know, is it something that you like to do? Do you like to write? Have you stopped writing, like the little things that really are part of our genetic makeup. And there's only one of you out in this world, right so, like only you know exactly what makes you happy. You know. Did you do karate back in the day? Did you like to sell? Did you like to knit? What did you do as a child that you really loved as a hobby? And how can you get yourself back into that space again to allow you to refind who that person was at your foundation, to help you reboost your confidence? And my third thing that I really love about myself is that this is actually a downfall. It has been... downfall, but it is also one of my strong lengths is that I have compassion and empathy for a lot of people and I don't like to see people hurting, and sometimes to my own detriment, because I give too much of myself when I don't necessarily get that reciprocated. But here's the thing. I'm not going to stop doing that because I am a good person at my core and I love helping people and if I can, I will. I will give much more than anybody will ever give me in return, and I'm okay with that. I just needed to learn to come to terms with that in order to realize where my strength and my weaknesses lied. And so I'm telling you all this because I feel as though we all literally have the ability to rebuild ourselves and build our confidence back again. If you figure out how to get back down to your fundamentals, figure out what made you happy as a child, figure out what was something that you were never afraid to do because it was just part of you. And sometimes it's not something that's going to make you your money for the rest of your life. Sometimes it's just a hobby that you pick up or finding finding something that you really truly love to do that you know it might not monetize or it does become your passion and you're living your passion by working through it and you're not worrying about money, because money will flow once you align to your passion. But HMM, truthfully, at its fundamental core, I really truly hope for you all that this podcast episode goes out to the ears that need to hear it. Girlfriend, you are not alone in this world and I promise you we have all been through this at least once, and the fact that we are such nurturing human beings and our emotions are tied to a lot of the things that we do, losing our confidence is not the end of the world, but regaining... is such a beautiful thing because from that point on. You now have the tools to remember how to rebuild yourself back up again. And the thing about failure. Failure is only the ability to teach you how to pivot, honey, and you're going to pivot a bunch of times in your life, and the good thing is is that the more you fail, the faster you learn how to pivot. So things will get better, I promise. Thanks for tuning in to empowerment and all that podcast with your host. Read Aboutista. Want to help me grow the listener tribe? Make sure to subscribe to this podcast and follow us on instagram and facebook. Under empowerment and all that, and remember, keep it positive or don't keep it at all.

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