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Season 1, Episode · 2 years ago

5 Tips to Regain Your Confidence


Hey sister! Do you feel lost, feel like your confidence is gone? Do you need to know how to regain your inner beautiful Wonder Woman that is inside of you? In this episode, I dive into 5 tips to help you regain your confidence and have you find that inner confident you again! --- Send in a voice message:

You're listening to empowerment and all thatpodcast, your favorite podcast for women's empowerment, hosted by Rita Bautista. It's timeto be reminded of the authority of your inner goddess and elevate the powerwithin. Are you ready? Hey, guys, it's ready to here withempowerment and all that, your favorite podcast for women empowerment. On today's episode, I'll be talking about five different ways to build your confidence. Have yougotten to a point in your life where you get in stuck in a Rut, or you're feeling like you're not living your best life, or you justfeel like you need that little bit of boost to make sure that you continuepushing yourself every single day? Well, I fell into those places. Ithink every single person under the sun has gotten to a place in their livessometimes where they lose themselves, and it's perfectly normal, especially as women,because we have so many hats that we wear, we do so many thingsfor people really regularly and obviously our emotions are also tied and involved to that, so we don't compartmentalize as well as men do, and for that particularreason there are points in our lives where we can get to this place wherewe look in the mirror we're like, who is this person? And Idon't know you. Why do I feel this way? Why don't I feellike the Badass diva that I am, or the boss lady that I amor, you know, the mom who's rock in it, like I normallyam. And you know, it's totally okay, and one of the mostbeautiful things about living in this time is that people are so candidly open aboutthese times in their lives right and so there are a few things that youcan do to kind of help yourself get back to that special place, thatthat woman, that superwoman, the you know, just feeling feeling your bestself. And I'll give you a few...

...of my tips that I normally useand tell you how it actually has worked for me. So one of themost simplest ways, and this is like you can literally fix give yourself alittle tiny boost of confidence in like literally less than five seconds, is byfixing your posture. A majority of the time we're not feeling well or we're, you know, slugging throughout the day, our shoulders are forward, our headsdown, especially if you work in an office. This is like oneof the most important things to do is fix your posture and it automatically givesyou a boost of endorphins and pushes you forward a little bit. Now,the way you do it is you push your shoulders back. Now, ifyou want to stand up, you can do this to stand up and standin your superman pose. Push your shoulders back, put your hands on yourhip, push your chest out, head up, Chin up, and youautomatically feel just a little bit better. And what's interesting about that is Iwas at the Rachel Hollis events and I keep talking about how awesome this conferencewas, but I literally was there a few months ago and a few weeksago, and while I was there at this at this conference, Rachel Hollishad all of us doing the superwoman post to remind us about our confidence.And what's interestingly, what's interesting about that is like she had like seven thousandwomen doing the superman pose and super woman, sorry, superwoman pose, and allthese women literally change their perspective and their mindset and their confidence was boostedjust a little bit, even if it didn't change their lives, but whatit was they what you were able to do is kind of like stop thattrain of thought immediately and look forward and lift your Chin up and pick yourhead up off the ground and put your shoulders back and put your chest out, and it automatically gives you that feeling of the confidence woman, that strongwoman who can do anything, who can be a mom, who can bea wife, who can be an entrepreneur,...

...who can be a doctor, whocan, you know, run that board meeting or just, you know, run the play group, the woman who knows how to multitask, andso it really just kind of gives you that stand. It's that Stamin us. So that's one of the things that you can do, and literally atany moment. So if you're feeling like that, if you're listening to meat your house right now, put your hands on your waist, put yourshoulders back, Chin up, chest out. You got this, Lady. Soanother thing that I tend to do to help me boost my confidence,and I've said this before, is listening to motivational and inspirational videos. Firstthing in the morning is the hardest time for me to get up. I'mjust honest about it. I'm not the biggest morning person. I am notthe strongest at getting my mindset in the right place. And so, inorder to recondition myself, I listen to motivational, motivational music, motivational inspirationalvideo, sorry, and what that does is it retrains my mind and again, stopping yourself in that overthinking of like I am not enough, I can'tdo this, I don't want to get out of bed, it really juststarts to push you and move you in the direction in which you need togo, so that way you're feeling a little bit more confident about yourself whenyou're actually getting something accomplished. One of the things that I also make sureto do is to give myself an automatic win first thing in the morning,and that automatic win, believe it or not, is the moment I popout of bed, I immediately make my bed, and what that does isit gives me a sense of fulfillment and so satisfaction that I've already accomplished oneof my goals for the day. And as simple and as easy as thatmay seem, and it might be part of a routine, knowing that Ican't get back into my bed pushes me and puts me emotion to keep going, and that in turn boosts my confidence to know that if I've accomplished onesmall thing in the morning, that I will continue to accomplish more things throughoutthe day. Third thing I do you...

...know, I know this may sounda little shallow and it might not be for everyone, but I really dobelieve that the way that you make yourself look on the outside is a reflectionof how you feel on the inside. And sometimes we do, ladies,we do have to fake it till we make it, and sometimes getting upand doing your hair and brushing your teeth and putting makeup on your face anddoing all this stuff maybe a lot of work. But when you look atyour reflection in the mirror and you see yourself as a beautiful being staring backat you, even if you don't have to put makeup on your face,maybe it's just washing your face, but taking care of yourself, self careis one of the most easiest ways to help boost your confidence. Give yourselfa facial rub, you give yourself a hand massage, Rub your temples.Believe that you are worthy of all this love and it will multiply, itwill continue to show once you start it, loving yourself first, even if youhave to force yourself to do it. It will multiply and it will showyour confidence on the exterior and it will allow for you to also believeit, because when others believe in you, you believe in yourself too. Sogive yourself a few minutes to try to be a little bit more kindto yourself and try some self care. The fifth thing I'm going to tellyou is make sure that you're not talking down to yourself. Sometimes, thereason we lose our confidence is because we're playing this battle with the we're fightingin the biggest war of all time, and that war is with me,myself and I, and that battle is only one. By stopping the negativeself talk. And how do you do that? You know exactly that littlevoice in your head, that little voice...

...that tells you you're not good enough, that little voice that tells you you can't compete at this level, thatlittle voice that tells you you're a woman, you don't deserve this. Or I'llnever find love because I'm too crazy. I'll never find love because I'm notstrong enough, I'll never find love because I can't have a child,I'll never have love because I come from a broken home. I'll never findlove in these things are the worst things to listen to, because they arenot true. None of the things that you allow yourself to hear repeated backto you in your own personal mind are not true. You have to dustyourself off sometimes and remember that on the inside there is the most beautiful humanbeing possible, and that person is capable of anything in this world. Allthey have to do is stop overthinking and stop the negative self talk immediately.So as soon as you hear yourself talking bad to yourself, you need tofigure out a way to stop pull a trigger. Pull a trigger to stopthe negative self talk, and by that I mean give yourself something that remindsyou. At that moment when you're about to talk down to yourself, whenyou feel like your confidence is dropping, you need to immediately pop up andsay no, sister, this is not today, this is not happening today. I am so much better than this. I know I can do this.I am confident. There are people with who've had way less than methat have accomplished way more or I am at this level because I've gotten herebecause I am a Badass, and you need to remind yourself of that everysingle day, even if you're in a terrible situation right now. Even ifyou're in a terrible space, your self worth is still just as valuable asthe person who is not in a bad place. Remember that your self worthis not any less than the person who... not in a bad place,and you will get back to your place where you're owning your shine very quickly. So make sure that any time you're about to talk negative to yourself,you say no. Girlfriend, today I am worth just as much as anotherperson who is in a better place than I am right now. And this, this is just temporary. These ideas, these thoughts, these values in mymind that I believe are important, but they're really not true. Theydon't matter. They don't matter because at the end of the day, you'regoing to get up just like the other person. You're going to wake up, you're going to open your eyes and, on the most fundamental level, weall still have a heartbeat and we all bleed the same. So ifwe can do all of that exactly the same, that means that we areall on the same playing field. We just have to prove it to ourselves. I've been there and I have so much compassion and empathy for those whoare going through a tough time, when they've lost their confidence, when theydon't know where to go, when they're confused, when they're feeling sad andlow, or they feel like they've been given it, there all and theyjust haven't been able to get that break for the breakthrough that they've been lookingfor. And it's like, you know, you never know how far you're goingto get if you give up, and the last person you should giveup on as yourself. You can give so much credit and so much motivationand so much inspiration to other people around you. Why don't you give itback to yourself? Take a look at yourself right now and find three thingsthat you like about yourself. And even if you're looking like you haven't lostyour hair and daise or if you haven't...

...shaved or whatever, what are thethree things you like about yourself? They don't have to be physical. Theycan be you know your characteristics, your personality, the ways that you acttowards people. I know my three things. I love my neck. That's oneof my physical things. A little vain, I know, but Ilove it. You know, I really truly love it. The other thingI love about myself is my ability to not stop when things are stacked againstme, and I had to learn that when I lost my confidence, Ihad to remind myself that I knew I had the tools put in place forme to be able to get out of this space, but I just neededto remember that I need to get back down to my fundamentals and remember whyI was put in this earth and on the first place. And this isn'tnecessarily a Ligne with your purpose, but it can if you know what yourpurpose is and maybe you just need a reminder of like, Hey, youknow what my purpose is? To make sure that I'm maintaining relationships with people, because I like to be social. So how do I realign back withthat? And then you notice, okay, you know what, I like tobe social. I haven't been out in about in a while. MaybeI need to figure out a way to become a social butterfly again to getme going. or Oh, or you know, is it something that youlike to do? Do you like to write? Have you stopped writing,like the little things that really are part of our genetic makeup. And there'sonly one of you out in this world, right so, like only you knowexactly what makes you happy. You know. Did you do karate backin the day? Did you like to sell? Did you like to knit? What did you do as a child that you really loved as a hobby? And how can you get yourself back into that space again to allow youto refind who that person was at your foundation, to help you reboost yourconfidence? And my third thing that I really love about myself is that thisis actually a downfall. It has been... downfall, but it is alsoone of my strong lengths is that I have compassion and empathy for a lotof people and I don't like to see people hurting, and sometimes to myown detriment, because I give too much of myself when I don't necessarily getthat reciprocated. But here's the thing. I'm not going to stop doing thatbecause I am a good person at my core and I love helping people andif I can, I will. I will give much more than anybody willever give me in return, and I'm okay with that. I just neededto learn to come to terms with that in order to realize where my strengthand my weaknesses lied. And so I'm telling you all this because I feelas though we all literally have the ability to rebuild ourselves and build our confidenceback again. If you figure out how to get back down to your fundamentals, figure out what made you happy as a child, figure out what wassomething that you were never afraid to do because it was just part of you. And sometimes it's not something that's going to make you your money for therest of your life. Sometimes it's just a hobby that you pick up orfinding finding something that you really truly love to do that you know it mightnot monetize or it does become your passion and you're living your passion by workingthrough it and you're not worrying about money, because money will flow once you alignto your passion. But HMM, truthfully, at its fundamental core,I really truly hope for you all that this podcast episode goes out to theears that need to hear it. Girlfriend, you are not alone in this worldand I promise you we have all been through this at least once,and the fact that we are such nurturing human beings and our emotions are tiedto a lot of the things that we do, losing our confidence is notthe end of the world, but regaining... is such a beautiful thing becausefrom that point on. You now have the tools to remember how to rebuildyourself back up again. And the thing about failure. Failure is only theability to teach you how to pivot, honey, and you're going to pivota bunch of times in your life, and the good thing is is thatthe more you fail, the faster you learn how to pivot. So thingswill get better, I promise. Thanks for tuning in to empowerment and allthat podcast with your host. Read Aboutista. Want to help me grow the listenertribe? Make sure to subscribe to this podcast and follow us on instagramand facebook. Under empowerment and all that, and remember, keep it positive ordon't keep it at all.

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